Be Your Own Best Friend

Learn to value yourself enough & like who you are, so you can enjoy healthy balanced friendships that bring out the best in you!

Do you want your child to choose healthy friendships?

Do you worry that your child is alone or unhappy?

Many parents tell me how painful it is for them to see their child in the wrong friendship or without friends. 

The desire to fit in and be accepted is strong

Is your child hanging out with so-called friends who leave them out or gossip about them behind their back? They feel invisible and ignored.

Perhaps your child forms friendships where the power is out of balance and they become a doormat. They can't quite stand up for themselves and they let other people tell them what to do.

Does your child feel responsible for how other people feel? Or are they desperate to be in the 'popular' gang and be seen as one of the trendy crew? Maybe they even try and get others to like and accept them and hide or change parts of themselves to fit in?

Does your child have a 'frenemie' who causes them a great deal of anguish and anxiety?

Your child appears to be stuck in an on/off friendship with high conflict, tears and drama. Your child is often hurt by this person or ignored, but still they keep on going back for more (despite your numerous attempts to advise them otherwise). You're left wondering:  'What could they possibly be getting out of this friendship?' 

Children with low self esteem struggle with friendships

β€œGood self esteem helps you know that every part of you is worth taking care of and protecting.”

Children who have low self esteem lack this belief about themselves and they:

πŸ‘‰are sensitive to constructive criticism
πŸ‘‰find it hard not to win or get upset if they’re not the best
πŸ‘‰ have poor self care
πŸ‘‰ suffer with anxiety (social and general)
πŸ‘‰ have negative unhelpful thinking styles
πŸ‘‰ are non assertive and easily influenced by peers
πŸ‘‰ find it hard to make decisions
πŸ‘‰ can become fixers and rescuers because β€˜helping others’ boosts their self esteem
πŸ‘‰ are highly critical and hard on themselves
πŸ‘‰ worry about what others think
πŸ‘‰ don’t trust themselves
πŸ‘‰ have poor body image
πŸ‘‰ cannot accept compliments 

Learn to Love Yourself!

Are you ready for change?

Are you ready to become more confident and comfortable in social situations?

'Be Your Own Best Friend'   is my fun and creative online course that will grow your child’s confidence and self esteem from the inside out.

From that, it is then, they can find the friendships they deserve. πŸ‘‡ Scroll down to explore the  brief course outline.

Relationships are our best teachers.

At the heart of all good relationships is the relationship we have with ourselves.

Often the relationships in our life mirror back to us how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we’re attracting tricky friends because we don’t value ourselves and we're tolerating other people's mistreatment of us. 

When you become your own best friend and you value yourself, you stop doing all that!

We’ve really seen a massive shift in her over the last few months. She still struggles with talking about her feelings at times but the more relaxed and at ease I am, the more freedom I give her, the more confident and happy she is! It was so lovely to see how brave she was facing her fear. She performed her drama show last night and did it with such passion and confidence. She actually looked like she was having fun with it. It’s wonderful to see her confidence growing and her coming into her own. Thank you so much for helping us on our journey together.”

In my work, the children who struggle with relationships usually ...

  • Have low self esteem and self respect
  • Are sensitive and take people’s words and behaviours personally
  • Are co-dependent (they feel responsible for other people’s feelings and put others’ needs before themselves when it’s not necessary or healthy to do so)
  • Lack assertiveness and confidence
  • Doubt themselves and are afraid to stick up for themselves
  • Are drawn to toxic on-off / frenemy relationships which get them stuck in a cycle
  • Lack healthy boundaries and feel insecure
  • Fear rejection and can’t be alone
  • Are seeking validation outside of themselves – they are people pleasers
  • Are unaware that friendship is a choice and no more than they deserve

Let's take a look behind the scenes together ...

You will get ...

  • a colourful 50-page activity journal with:
    • regular prompts for discussion and reflection
    • worksheets and coaching activities
    • mini challenges to put your learnings into action
  • a recording of the 45-minute live coaching call where you can listen in to what other children are saying about each exercise
  • engaging and light-hearted coaching with Smiley videos

This course is for you if ...

You are aged between 8 – 12 and you feel lonely or like you don’t belong.
Or maybe you’ve got tricky relationships in your life – an absent parent, frenemy, a bully, a bucket dipper or a bossy pants who takes over and wants it all on their terms. This course would also be helpful for siblings who argue a lot and jostle for their place in the family.

By the end of this course, you can expect to ...

  • have an increased awareness of your personal friendship values, friendship history and how you are contributing towards it
  • have a water tight plan for dealing with tricky people
  • have the skills and words to handle conflict without all the drama
  • have stronger boundaries so you can take care of your own needs and make sure you’re treated respectfully
  • have more self compassion, kindness and empathy so you can be more accepting of who you are and not how others define you
  • have improved communication skills – you will know how to assert yourself and what can sometimes stop you from doing that!
  • step away from being a People Pleaser or care taking other people’s feelings
  • have improved self worth; so you can find friendships that work for you – you deserve the best in life
  • feel empowered to choose relationships which lift you up and bring out the best in you
  • have the tools to help you reduce any social anxiety or worries around judgement or criticism

Brief Course Outline

πŸ‘‡ Scroll to the bottom of this page for a more detailed outline of the course content πŸ‘‡

πŸ‘‰ Week 1
Welcome & Mini Friendship Assessment
– – Audit your friendship values, look back at your friendship history and truly understand how you arrived in the space you are in now.

πŸ‘‰ Week 2
Get to Know Yourself
– – What are you bringing to the friendship party? Are you over giving? Are you expecting too much? Can you learn to love your own company and enjoy time alone?

πŸ‘‰ Week 3
Respect Yourself
– –
Step into your own power and learn how to truly value yourself and watch how other people start to value you too.

πŸ‘‰ Week 4
Protect Yourself
– – Discover how to reduce your anxiety and feel safer in social situations or around angry or mean people.

πŸ‘‰ Week 5
Stand up for Yourself
– – How to be more assertive without losing it or stuffing your feelings down so you can ask for what you need. Your needs matter and you are totally worth it!

πŸ‘‰ Week 6
Be Your Own Best Friend
– – Managing your inner critic (you know that voice in your head which bullies you?) and learning to love and accept who you are – it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being true to who you are!

Special Smiley Bonuses

Over one hour of Special Smiley Bonuses to help you grow your self awareness and inner strength from the inside out.

🌈 The Energy of YOU & Your Unique Energy Field Creative Coaching Exercise - -  you can work out your own unique energy blueprint and what you bring to the world
🌟 Your Inner Star Guided Visualisation - -  to help you step into your empowered self
🦁 Chanting for Courage - - listen as often as possible to build yourself up and feel strong
😊 Strengthening your Inner self - - learn to let go of mistakes and disappointments

"Thank you! You’ve helped me Smiley. Whenever I hear your voice I feel so safe!  I feel like this course has helped me be more aware of who is a real friend and who I want to play with." Sophie & Eloise, age 10 
"We have really enjoyed these sessions as a family. Amazing!"

Upgrade & fast track your learning 

Group Coaching with Smiley

This fab and powerful online course is delivered LIVE with me at various times of the year. When you do the course live you get my FULL support, insights and have full access to me via a Facebook Group for 6 weeks.

Apply for Group Coaching

You will need to sign up and complete a quick application form.
>>Click here to sign up! 

I want to make sure this is the right programme for your family and also that we’re a good fit for each other. When you sign up, I’ll send you an application form which is basically a few questions to help us work it out. We will then have a quick chat over the phone and get connected. I want you to be really confident and clear that you are getting what you need.

Is Group Coaching right for us?

You will need:

  • to be available for the duration of the 6 week course
  • a Facebook account
  • time to do the exercises and activities (minimum of approximately 1 hour a week or more if you want to)
  • be willing to give feedback as we go
  • to feel comfortable being in a group and open to sharing 

Check the website for next intake of families

Check the website for full details of the next round of Live Group Coaching with Smiley  here.

Upgrade & fast track your learning

121 Private Coaching with Smiley 

If you buy this course and want support from me, then you can upgrade to 121 coaching and I'll credit you the money you paid for this course as part of your coaching package.
>> Click here to find out more about 121 private coaching with Smiley.

Intended Audience: children, families, parents, SENCO, counsellors, therapists, teachers, schools

πŸ‘ How things work around here ....
πŸ“PRINT OFF! Be Your Own Best Friend Journal
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 1
πŸ“ž Week 1 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
πŸ– Friendships Leave a Handprint on Your Heart
🎧 The One With the Fake Friends
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 2
πŸ“ž Week 2 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
For Parents - The Magic of the 5:1 Ratio
Conversation Starters
🎡🎢 What's Your Power Song?
🎧 The One With The Ouchy Old Bruise
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 3
⏰ Who are you giving your precious time to?
πŸ“žWeek 3 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
🎧 The One With the Sicky Icky Soup
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 4
🌹 How Does Your Garden Grow?
πŸ—» If you are being bullied
πŸ“ž Week 4 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
πŸ’• Keep Yourself Safe
βœ‚ Chord Cutting with Tricky People
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 5
πŸ’₯ Using Your Powerful Voice
πŸ“ž Week 5 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
🎧 The One With the Broken Friendship
βœ… What You Will Learn in Week 6
🏝 On Your Desert Island: What do you need?
🎧 The One When Loneliness Paid A Visit
πŸ’” Learning How to Be Alone
🎧 Self Talk
🎧 The One With The Marvellous Medicine
πŸ’œ Your Kindness Checklist & Plan
πŸ“ž Week 6 Live Coaching Call with Smiley (recording)
🌈 What is your Unique Recipe for Being Your Own Best Friend?
βœ… What You Will Learn in the Bonus Section
🌈 The Energy of YOU & Your Unique Energy Field
🌟 Your Inner Star Guided Visualisation
🦁 Chanting for Courage
😊 Strengthening your Inner Self
πŸ’– Half Term Free Friendship Coaching Session
πŸ™ Your Feedback Matters to Me & Will Inspire Others
πŸ’™ More Helpful Resources
🌈 Meet Smiley or Ask her a Question

Just what we needed!

Michelle , 2 months ago

This course was just what my daughter needed to support her through a tricky time with friendships and school. It was perfectly pitched for the age group, fun and accessible. Some of the techniques such as 'grey rock' and 'poo burger' were great and we use them a lot now. Highly recommended.

What's included

  • 21 Video Lessons
  • 23 Text Lessons

  • Works on all devices
  • Certificate of completion

Lisa Parkes


Often called The Smiley Coach, Lisa Parkes is a qualified and experienced Life Coach who works with children aged 7 up. Lisa gives them life skills and practical coping strategies for life's hiccups. She has helped hundreds of children become self aware and develop a positive outlook on life; beating their fears, worries and stresses about homework, exams, friendship struggles, bullying, nerves and anxiety to name but a few. Lisa is passionate about helping children feel great from the inside out and she connects to children with her very popular 'Truly Madly Smiley' Podcast. Her weekly coaching club 'The Energy Pod' and private coaching sessions help children develop self belief, positive thinking and most of all: find their own way without judgement in a safe and trusted environment. Lisa is also the creator of Smiley Thought Cards; positive affirmations which encourage emotional intelligence and connect families with love.