Do you want your child to choose healthy friendships?
Do you worry that your child is alone or unhappy?
Many parents tell me how painful it is for them to see their child in the wrong friendship or without friends.
The desire to fit in and be accepted is strong
Is your child hanging out with so-called friends who leave them out or gossip about them behind their back?
They feel invisible and ignored.
Perhaps your child forms friendships where the power is out of balance and they become a doormat.
They can't quite stand up for themselves and they let other people tell them what to do.
Does your child feel responsible for how other people feel? Or are they desperate to be in the 'popular' gang and be seen as one of the trendy crew?
Maybe they even try and get others to like and accept them and hide or change parts of themselves to fit in?
Does your child have a 'frenemie' who causes them a great deal of anguish and anxiety?
Your child appears to be stuck in an on/off friendship with high conflict, tears and drama. Your child is often hurt by this person or ignored, but still they keep on going back for more (despite your numerous attempts to advise them otherwise). You're left wondering:
'What could they possibly be getting out of this friendship?'
Children with low self esteem struggle with friendships
“Good self esteem helps you know that every part of you is worth taking care of and protecting.”
Children who have low self esteem lack this belief about themselves and they:
👉are sensitive to constructive criticism
👉find it hard not to win or get upset if they’re not the best
👉 have poor self care
👉 suffer with anxiety (social and general)
👉 have negative unhelpful thinking styles
👉 are non assertive and easily influenced by peers
👉 find it hard to make decisions
👉 can become fixers and rescuers because ‘helping others’ boosts their self esteem
👉 are highly critical and hard on themselves
👉 worry about what others think
👉 don’t trust themselves
👉 have poor body image
👉 cannot accept compliments
Learn to Love Yourself!
Are you ready for change?
Are you ready to become more confident and comfortable in social situations?
'Be Your Own Best Friend'
is my fun and creative online course that will grow your child’s confidence and self esteem from the inside out.
From that, it is then, they can find the friendships they deserve. 👇 Scroll down to explore the
brief course outline.
Relationships are our best teachers.
At the heart of all good relationships is the relationship we have with ourselves.
Often the relationships in our life mirror back to us how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes we’re attracting tricky friends because we don’t value ourselves and we're tolerating other people's mistreatment of us.
When you become your own best friend and you value yourself, you stop doing all that!
We’ve really seen a massive shift in her over the last few months. She still struggles with talking about her feelings at times but the more relaxed and at ease I am, the more freedom I give her, the more confident and happy she is! It was so lovely to see how brave she was facing her fear. She performed her drama show last night and did it with such passion and confidence. She actually looked like she was having fun with it. It’s wonderful to see her confidence growing and her coming into her own. Thank you so much for helping us on our journey together.”
In my work, the children who struggle with relationships usually ...
Are sensitive and take people’s words and behaviours personally
Are co-dependent (they feel responsible for other people’s feelings and put others’ needs before themselves when it’s not necessary or healthy to do so)
Lack assertiveness and confidence
Doubt themselves and are afraid to stick up for themselves
Are drawn to toxic on-off / frenemy relationships which get them stuck in a cycle
Lack healthy boundaries and feel insecure
Fear rejection and can’t be alone
Are seeking validation outside of themselves – they are people pleasers
Are unaware that friendship is a choice and no more than they deserve
Let's take a look behind the scenes together ...
You will get ...
a colourful 50-page activity journal with:
regular prompts for discussion and reflection
worksheets and coaching activities
mini challenges to put your learnings into action
a recording of the 45-minute live coaching call where you can listen in to what other children are saying about each exercise
engaging and light-hearted coaching with Smiley videos
This course is for you if ...
You are aged between 8 – 12 and you feel lonely or like you don’t belong.
Or maybe you’ve got tricky relationships in your life – an absent parent, frenemy, a bully, a bucket dipper or a bossy pants who takes over and wants it all on their terms. This course would also be helpful for siblings who argue a lot and jostle for their place in the family.
By the end of this course, you can expect to ...
have an increased awareness of your personal friendship values, friendship history and how you are contributing towards it
have a water tight plan for dealing with tricky people
have the skills and words to handle conflict without all the drama
have stronger boundaries so you can take care of your own needs and make sure you’re treated respectfully
have more self compassion, kindness and empathy so you can be more accepting of who you are and not how others define you
have improved communication skills – you will know how to assert yourself and what can sometimes stop you from doing that!
step away from being a People Pleaser or care taking other people’s feelings
have improved self worth; so you can find friendships that work for you – you deserve the best in life
feel empowered to choose relationships which lift you up and bring out the best in you
have the tools to help you reduce any social anxiety or worries around judgement or criticism
Brief Course Outline
👇 Scroll to the bottom of this page for a more detailed outline of the course content 👇
👉 Week 1 Welcome & Mini Friendship Assessment
– – Audit your friendship values, look back at your friendship history and truly understand how you arrived in the space you are in now.
👉 Week 2 Get to Know Yourself
– – What are you bringing to the friendship party? Are you over giving? Are you expecting too much? Can you learn to love your own company and enjoy time alone?
👉 Week 3 Respect Yourself
Step into your own power and learn how to truly value yourself and watch how other people start to value you too.
👉 Week 4 Protect Yourself
– – Discover how to reduce your anxiety and feel safer in social situations or around angry or mean people.
👉 Week 5 Stand up for Yourself
– – How to be more assertive without losing it or stuffing your feelings down so you can ask for what you need. Your needs matter and you are totally worth it!
👉 Week 6 Be Your Own Best Friend
– – Managing your inner critic (you know that voice in your head which bullies you?) and learning to love and accept who you are – it’s not about being perfect, it’s about being true to who you are!
Special Smiley Bonuses
Over one hour of Special Smiley Bonuses to help you grow your self awareness and inner strength from the inside out.
🌈 The Energy of YOU & Your Unique Energy Field Creative Coaching Exercise - - you can work out your own unique energy blueprint and what you bring to the world 🌟 Your Inner Star Guided Visualisation - - to help you step into your empowered self 🦁 Chanting for Courage - - listen as often as possible to build yourself up and feel strong 😊 Strengthening your Inner self - - learn to let goof mistakes and disappointments
"Thank you! You’ve helped me Smiley. Whenever I hear your voice I feel so safe! I feel like this course has helped me be more aware of who is a real friend and who I want to play with." Sophie & Eloise, age 10 "We have really enjoyed these sessions as a family. Amazing!"
Upgrade & fast track your learning
Group Coaching with Smiley
This fab and powerful online course is delivered
LIVE with me at various times of the year. When you do the course live you get my
FULL support, insights and have full access to me via a Facebook Group for 6 weeks.
I want to make sure this is the right programme for your family and also that we’re a good fit for each other. When you sign up, I’ll send you an application form which is basically a few questions to help us work it out. We will then have a quick chat over the phone and get connected. I want you to be really confident and clear that you are getting what you need.
Is Group Coaching right for us?
You will need:
to be available for the duration of the 6 week course
a Facebook account
time to do the exercises and activities (minimum of approximately 1 hour a week or more if you want to)
be willing to give feedback as we go
to feel comfortable being in a group and open to sharing
Check the website for next intake of families
Check the website for full details of the next round of Live Group Coaching with Smiley
This course was just what my daughter needed to support her through a tricky time with friendships and school. It was perfectly pitched for the age group, fun and accessible. Some of the techniques such as 'grey rock' and 'poo burger' were great and we use them a lot now. Highly recommended.
Often called The Smiley Coach, Lisa Parkes is a qualified and experienced Life Coach who works with children aged 7 up. Lisa gives them life skills and practical coping strategies for life's hiccups. She has helped hundreds of children become self aware and develop a positive outlook on life; beating their fears, worries and stresses about homework, exams, friendship struggles, bullying, nerves and anxiety to name but a few. Lisa is passionate about helping children feel great from the inside out and she connects to children with her very popular 'Truly Madly Smiley' Podcast. Her weekly coaching club 'The Energy Pod' and private coaching sessions help children develop self belief, positive thinking and most of all: find their own way without judgement in a safe and trusted environment. Lisa is also the creator of Smiley Thought Cards; positive affirmations which encourage emotional intelligence and connect families with love.